Reflections

Anxiety is often treated as a warning sign: something must be wrong, something bad is about to happen, something needs to be fixed. Sometimes that is true. Anxiety can be a response to real uncertainty, pressure, loss, conflict or change. But at other times, the feeling of anxiety is less about an immediate problem and more about how difficult it can be to live with what we cannot fully predict, control or resolve. You may notice yourself thinking ahead constantly, replaying

There is still a common idea that therapy is something we turn to only when life has become unbearable. When something has gone seriously wrong. When we are no longer coping. When there is a crisis, a diagnosis or a problem that feels impossible to manage alone. Of course, therapy can be important in those moments. But it can also begin much earlier than that. Sometimes people come to counselling because nothing dramatic has happened and yet something no longer feels quite ri

Sometimes, we may find that the same kind of difficulty seems to follow us from one relationship to the next. The people may be different and the circumstances may change, but we still find ourselves facing the same challenges. And yet, something familiar begins to emerge. Perhaps you find yourself taking on too much responsibility for other people. Maybe you become the one who keeps the peace, adapts, waits, explains, or tries to hold everything together. You may find that y

Sometimes there is no obvious crisis. Life is still moving. You go to work, answer messages, take care of responsibilities, make plans and do what needs to be done. From the outside, things may even look reasonably fine. And yet, somewhere underneath all of that, there can be a persistent feeling that something is not quite right. You may feel restless without knowing what you are looking for. You may be tired in a way that rest does not seem to solve. Perhaps things that onc